Overcoming Fear is The Best Way to Find Your Passion in Life

I show you that overcoming fear of anything in your life is not only fun but you can turn it into a passion that you make money with. You have to love that.

It’s actually very interesting how that word Fear really scares people. ;) Just thought we should lighten it up a bit.

Most people don’t want to admit or think of them selves as having fears. Maybe because we are taught somewhere along the line that is not an attractive trait.

For me not overcoming fear was a reoccurring obstacle throughout my young life. Not dealing with it for one thing. No matter what I was afraid of, I learned to ignore everything. I always felt if I ignore this feeling it will go away.

It did go away...for a while. What I didn’t realize,it had never really gone anywhere. It was buried down deep inside me waiting, taking up quite a bit of energy, which I wasn't aware of either, just to keep it from coming back up.

Somehow after awhile there it was, waiting for me like a faithful friend who always wanted to get my attention and wanted me to come out and play. The problem was I didn’t want to play.

Overcoming Fear ...Resistance

The first thought I would have when I was in fear is………….STOP!!! I would run as far away from that feeling as I could get. I would chose almost anything as a distraction to get away from that awful feeling. (Shopping, men, drinking, eating, cigarettes, you know the list) Some of these things actually worked for a while I did not see any reason at that point to get rid of a perfectly good group of coping mechanisms.

A distraction can be anything done to excess. The list is endless…

Like all good distractions, they stopped working. I was left with the one thing I had been running away from my FEAR. At that point I had really only two alternatives I like to think I had more but it all boiled down to, deal with the fear or never stop running.

I really did not want to examine it. After all, I had spent most of my life avoiding it. At that point, I thought I had done a good job. The last thing I wanted to do was alter something I thought was working out practically well.

I did not want to look at what my demons may be. That left me with the same thing I had been doing all along, avoiding it and after awhile that clearly stopped working. I know one thing about fear the more you avoid it the bigger it gets. I was hoping it was the other way around. So there I was facing these two choices.

If I could explain the resistance I had to overcoming fear, I would have to compare it to the size of two universes and a small galaxy thrown in just so you get the point.

Overcoming Fear Acceptance

I then decided to make the choice to look into exactly what I was afraid of. That may sound simple enough, remember I’m not used to doing that at this point in my life.

I had many fears; this made it difficult to know exactly what I was afraid of. I had a few ideas but I never looked close enough to really find out what I was so afraid of.

This acceptance phase took some getting used to. Once I decided to jump in my life started to flow. I realized I didn’t want to go back to living in that dark place of fear and playing hide and seek with the boogie man, that was literally wearing me OUT!

Overcoming Fear What to Do about it. Take Action NOW There is No Other Time.

Next I needed a bit of help. I started going to support groups were you can share. I read self help books. I went to seminars. I shared with a therapist.

Every one of these actions helped. But what really made the difference was my willingness to take a look at what, I was so afraid of.

What I found out is one of the greatest gifts I have ever received!

Overcoming Fear The Darkness Goes Out Forever and The Lights Come On

I had to stop and actually look at what I was afraid of. Yes that meant feeling it. If I didn’t actually feel it then I would not have been able to get rid of it. That was the first step. Feeling it.

When I say feeling it I mean letting yourself go to that dark hiding place where your mind thinks it will die if it goes there. That place. Really go there. Feel what it is you think is going to kill you.

I looked at it like this, “What do I have to lose? It’s killing me by not feeling it!!” The same goes for you. If it's not killing you now it will. I promise it will.

That is was all disease is about not looking at what your afraid of. It causes conflict in your body and if that is left alone long enough disease sets in.

Break down the word. Dis - ease. That says it all right there not at ease with yourself. How can you be at ease if your in fear and pain? You can't it's that simple.

Once I felt the pain, I could then release it. I mean really feeling and releasing, where you’re crying so hard it’s difficult to catch your breath, that kind of feeling/releasing it. I would say to myself, please let me go as deep and be as honest as I am capable of.

I soon began to realize that it wasn’t going to kill me. Not even close. I also realized that it did just the opposite. It gave me a light feeling. As if I had just unloaded twenty tons of baggage. I actually felt euphoric.

I wanted to shout from the roof tops. “I feel better..not worse!”

I thought,” Why did it take me this long to find that out? “If I knew ahead of time it would feel that great afterward, I would have tried it a lot sooner!

I was so excited I wanted to do this again with a few other things I had been running from forever. Every time I did this release, I felt lighter. I actually thought I lost a few pounds in the process. :)

Overcoming Fear Taking it a Step Further

I realized that some of my fears were things I was going to actually have to do… Like public speaking. I love people and I love to share but only in a smaller crowd of one.

Another one was my fears was ghosts. This wasn't something I could release by crying. These types of fears called for action.

Overcoming Fear … How to Make a Fun Game of it

When it came to speaking I decided to sign myself up to speak to groups for free. If one of the groups I belonged to asked me to speak I would say yes and I would make time.

I began looking at the fear differently … ”Where there is fear there is opportunity” This became my motto that I live by today!

I found that taking smaller steps made it easier to accomplish the actions necessary to walk through overcoming fear. I started off by speaking to a small group more than one of course but not more than ten. The more I did this the more comfortable I became. I soon realized that if I did get nervous that was a good sign that I was excited.

I embraced that excitement and the fear decreased to almost nothing within a short time. I didn’t try to take on Carnegie Hall or anything. That’s coming up… I’m sure. :)

I now speak and hold Class's, Groups, Seminars, Workshops You name it. I not only love speaking but I make a living at it.

I am sure you have heard the saying the one thing you are avoiding in life is the thing you need to look at the most.

Overcoming Fear …The Spirits and Ghosts

This story wouldn't be a fun if I left out my very real fear of ghosts that I had most of my life. I felt such a sense of freedom and peace from walking through that fear I decided to tackle the ghosts.

I had seen the ghost of my grandfather over twenty years ago plus a few other unexplained things that really scared me. I had always felt their were spirits around me as long as I can remember.

How I over came this fear was really fun. I had the time of my life and it became a second passion I now have. The supernatural is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

What I did was to really investigate ghosts. I decided I’m going to find out all about them. I did have experiences with a ghosts and all kinds of interesting sex sense type of things that used to scare me beyond belief.

I bought every book I could find on spirits and ghosts. I went to seminars where they were featuring mediums. I actually witnessed mediums talking to spirits. I started watching TV shows about the paranormal.

I never would have done any of these things before. I was too busy avoiding them. This ghost thing really frightened me. The mere idea of a ghost was terrifying, let alone watching a whole show about them.

I now know more about ghosts and spirits then most mediums. Oh, there is a difference between the two. A ghost is when you see someone’s life trapped in time, it can’t actually interact with the world…Whew!

A spirit usually appears when there is a problem of some sort and they want to help. Like your late Aunt Edna knows you’re suffering because of something and she wants to tell you not to worry. The point is that rarely happens.

If it happens at all it is because the person still alive has a deep seated need that the spirit (usually someone who the person was very close to when they were alive) is filling. By the way you have to be pretty lucid and receptive to even receive these messages. You also have to resonate at a extremely high level one that is not natural for human beings.

Overcoming Fear …The Best Part

The funny thing is, it’s not that easy to see and talk to spirits. Here I was afraid for all those years and now I can’t get a ghost to show up here for anything! I know I’ve tried. :)

That is truly the funniest part about fear. When you really look at it, it really goes away.

Since I wrote this article a couple of years ago a lot has changed in my life. I decided to update the article and let you know that yes I have not only seen ghosts but they can't hurt you. It's impossible they are not flesh and blood they live in a higher realm. One that most people can see or hear and it should stay that way.

The reason you don't want to see or hear them is because they live in the same place we do. It can get very noisy if you don't know how to tune them out. I will get more into this in another article or maybe a book as I now see the need to let people know why they have some of the problems they do.

Some people are more sensitive to other levels of the universe and if they don't realize this can spend their whole life trying to escape something that can be a huge asset instead of something that destroys lives.

I Highly Recommend Taking the Three Steps in Overcoming Fear.

1. Willingness to take a look at them. Once you find out how easy it is. It makes the next step all that much smoother.

2. Support in opening up. That can be in a group, going to a therapist or talking to a trusted friend.

3. Taking an action step that deals with that actual fear. You want to do the thing you are most afraid of. Look it in the eye so to speak.

You’re going to laugh about how long it took you to do it. If you're anything like me that is!

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