The only thing that worked for me Simone was when I embraced my fear. Meaning I quit running from it. The next time you see a shadow or something that you think is a ghost instead of panicking or trying not to deal with it stop and say okay Mr. Ghost what do you want? Talk to the ghost make friends with it. Say hi Mr. Ghost or Mrs. Ghost how is your day going? And let the ghost talk.
You will see by allowing the ghost in you will soon find out that even if they were there nothing is going to happen. But you have to really see that. There is no short cut to fear. You have to stand up to it. Believe me doing this is much better than living your life the way you are now. You will be amazed at how this works. Start a pleasant conversation with the ghost as you would one of your friends.
I was just as afraid of ghosts when I was your age and even older and now I love everything about the super natural. The reason I was so afraid is because like you I let my imagination take over and thought they would do something to me I couldn't control. I spent years of my life being in fear. I didn't know when I was young the way to deal with fear. No one told me and like you my parents weren't really any help.
I will send you some positive energy that will surround you and give you the courage you need to face your fear. I'm going to do that right now. You can do this Simone and once you do you will find out that the only thing that is trying to hurt you is your imagination. Ghosts have no reason to hurt people nor do they have the ability even if they wanted to. TV shows are fiction. I know I have been in plenty when I was younger.
Let me know what happens.
I wish for you all the happiness and courage the universe has to offer!
Dawn
Aug 05, 2010 Rating
In reply to Dawn by: Simone
I had imagination of whether is there a ghost behind me or beside me. I think something really scary is gonna to happen to me,like scary images of the ghost turns out,and they did scary stuff to me,like disturbing me when I can't them. I'm just afraid of seeing one but all my friends told me that the more I'm scare,the more they will come & hunt me.
Like sometimes I saw shadows & i will really freak out,but I told my friend & she said is just my imagination & my eyes. She said she had this seeing of shadow a few times and assure me is not ghost but I still feel very insecure. I don't know why,whenever I'm alone,I will let my imagination run to a scary side and even with people around me,I will still feel insecure. I just don't have a sense of security. I had prayed to God before I sleep,but still hesitate to have my eyes close. I don't know if I have a sickness but I believe I do not have. My mother & family members can't help much for me. I don't even dare or want to express my thoughts to them. During night,I have my lights on. I'm really afraid something will pop out & harm me even though you told me that ghost/spirits can't harm me.Little sounds scares the death out of me,like when someone close the door,someone moved or sounds from others places.
I don't even dare to bath alone. I really don't know what to do. I wasn't like this in the past,I was much more braver in the past but soon after I have watched the show on paranormal activity I have become less daring.
Aug 02, 2010 Rating
dealing with your fear by: Dawn Abraham
Simone,
Hi, I am sorry to hear that your still having fear but I'm not surprised. Often it takes a little while to move past something.
Ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen if you see a ghost? Let's go there. What is it? Explain it to me in detail. What do you think is going to happen to you? Let me know how you feel don't hold back. Once you post it. I will respond and we can go from there. This exercise will start the process of confronting your fears.
Another thing that you should know about fear of any type is that it's okay that you have a fear. Don't try so hard to get rid of it. First try accepting that you have it. Let it be okay that this happening.
Often when we try too hard it only makes it more difficult.
