thank you for all your help. i really do appreciate it! [=
Jul 22, 2010 Rating
How to deal with Divorce by: Anonymous
Hi Jodi,
I am so sorry it took me a little while to get back to you. I can tell by reading your post you are going through a lot. I know how difficult divorce can be I went through it with my parents when I was fourteen.
They really seemed to change in my eyes during this time and like you I felt confused and often frustrated by their actions. Now that I'm an adult I understand that they were doing the best they could at the time with what they had to work with.
Being an adult never means you do things perfectly. They make just as many mistakes as teenagers they are just different mistakes. I didn't understand back then how truly difficult it was for them too. I was young and only thinking of myself.
The best thing you can do Jodi is try not to take what is going on between them personally. I know that is challenging and it probably seems like your Dad is choosing his new family over you. What you don't realize is he is trying to make them feel important and by doing that it seems like he is putting them first.
My suggestion is try doing something to make their lives easier. What I have found is when you treat people the way you want to be treated things change for the better.
I know this may seem unfair or difficult but when we think of others feelings and not ours it takes us out of the victim role and gives us our power back.
You won't feel so hopeless if you change the situation by changing the way you are reacting to it. You can't change your parents but you can change the way you deal with the situation. Read my article on how to deal with change.
Next time you see your Dad tell him you love him and you understand how difficult it must be for him to going through a divorce. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make his life a little easier.
You may be surprised at how he treats you after that. If you truly mean it you will see how treating people the way you want to be treated works like magic.
I wish for you all the peace and happiness the universe has to offer.
Dawn
Jul 22, 2010 Rating
you can remove this by: Anonymous
guess the situation is too messed up for anyone to help.. please take this off this site then? it is irritating enough that i cant handle this on my own, i dont need people to see it if they cant help me..
