I told my boyfriend I wanted to date other people

by Missy
(Texas USA)

I have been in a relationship for three years with a man that I don't think I'm in love with. I read your blog on a regular basis and when I saw you talk about do something that scares right away I knew what that would be for me.

I have wanted to tell Jeff for a long time that I felt we should see other people. He is a really nice guy so it is hard for me to hurt him.

I thought about it and I am hurting him more by not telling him how I feel.

It really scared me to do this and I don't think I would have done it on my own without prompting from you Dawn.


He was upset but not surprised. He said he knew that I was unhappy and distant for the longest time. I think he was relieved that I let the car out of the bag. We talked about things and feelings for the first time in a long time.

I don't know what will happen but I feel like I did something that I should have done along time ago. Now at least we are talking again. We haven't completely broke up but we may start to date other people.

This is a great great thing to do what your afraid of. I think more people should try it!

Lots of Love and Peace
Missy