private and confidential...Can you help me?

Dear Dawn,

Visited your website and it is really good, however I wanted to seek personal advice from you.

I recently had a baby six weeks ago and I live with my partner, I have known him since 2003 and been with him nearly four years.

However I have always suffered desperately with myself esteem and confidence and I tend to procrastinate a lot and I always turn to rely on other peoples acceptance and opinion, I can never make decisions without asking another person what they think which in turn portrays that I am not sure of myself.

My weight is also an issue for me, before I was pregnant I was over weight and I have always wished and dreamed of being skinny, however felt like it was impossible and all my insecurities reflect my relationship.

I am tend to be insecure and unsure of myself and always question my partner and check things as I feel like he will cheat on me or is cheating and in all honesty I think its my confidence lack of self assurance and drive me mad and to the limits that I go to and feel jealous . I feel like i cannot be myself around me and feel i have to be what i think my partner likes.

I never achieve any goals I set for myself and I do not know why. I also always feel like I have to live up to peoples expectations and feel like I am a failure.i feel because of how I am I don’t have friends and find it hard to make friends. I always look at others lives and keep wishing I was like them or had what they have.

Can you help/me.

Thank you